Overcoming Pornography

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Seeing Ourselves as a Changed Person

Seeing Ourselves as a Changed Person

Most of us want to change unwanted behaviors, even if the desire is very small. Wanting change is the beginning. Seeing ourselves as a changed person, going through life without the behavior, is vital to our long-term healing. Working to Change Behavior vs. Seeing us as Changed It has been my experience that most clients […]

Talk to Your Kids About Pornography

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Talk to Your Kids About Pornography

You don’t need to be an authority on porn to be your kid’s primary resource on the topic. After all, you’re an expert on the two things that matter most — You unconditionally love your child and know them better than anyone else. Plus, you have deeply held sexual values. Without being an expert, you’re […]

Using Self-Love To Facilitate Change

Using Self-Love To Facilitate Change

A Global Positioning System (GPS) is extremely handy when we are trying to find a location, particularly when we are in unfamiliar territory. We can drive while listening to the audio instructions from the GPS as well as view our position in relationship to the electronic map. Wrong Turn / Recalculating Even with our best […]

Declare Your Thoughts

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Declare Your Thoughts

If you’ve ever traveled abroad, you’ve had this experience: when you arrive at the customs checkpoint you have to declare or reveal what you’re bringing into the country. It can be odd to do a mental inventory of your luggage contents. Then it can even be shocking when you realize there’s an item of concern […]

I Can Be the Catalyst for Change

I Can Be the Catalyst for Change

On a daily basis, you work within many complex situations involving both individuals and families. Sometimes you would like to see something in your relationship with others change. In order to be happy, often times, you will want someone else to make that change. Unfortunately, this behavior can lead to feelings of being stuck, helpless […]

Doing it Differently with a “Mental Redo.”

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Doing it Differently with a “Mental Redo.”

Many equate being “in recovery” from a pornography problem with being completely free of the problem. If they blow it and have a slip, they conclude that they’ll be back on track only after they’ve gone a few weeks–or perhaps even months–free of porn again. This is an overly simplistic view. Think about how discouraging […]

I Have a Choice. I Can Choose a Different Alternative.

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Instead of rebelling in knee-jerk ways, remember the true range of your freedom. Sometimes, destructive patterns appeal to us because they offer the illusion of freedom. Giving into an urge gives us a phony sense of autonomy. The woman controlled by her appetite thinks, “To heck with vegetables. I’m going to eat what I want!” […]

Benefits and Costs of Indulging or Acting Out.

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Benefits and Costs of Indulging or Acting Out.

Put into Words the Payoffs of and Arguments for Indulging. Part of the power of addictive thinking is that it remains unexplored, like a black box whose workings remain concealed. Expressing the appeal of an urge can reveal the gears and springs by which the apparatus did its formerly mysterious work. Interestingly enough, compelling “reasons” […]

When I Feel the Urge, What Can I Do?

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Balance and Integrate

Our minds are oriented toward simplicity and they are quicker to grab onto inner signals that are gross (obvious and intense) rather than fine (subtle and difficult to distinguish). It’s easier to shop than it is to feel inadequate. Likewise, it’s easier to mindlessly flip on the TV than to recognize that we’re longing for […]

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