Recognize when you become reactive and flag the moment Several times a day, we shift in an out of an emotionally reactive frame of mind. Such transitions can be subtle or dramatic, but since they are so integrated into our conscious experience they typically go unnoticed. By catching the shift and registering it in some […]
Trust is Different than Forgiveness Forgiveness does not mean that all trust has been restored in our relationship. Forgiveness and trust are not the same. Trust requires evidence, forgiveness does not. We might forgive our spouse for past transgressions, but we may still wonder if we trust him when he says, “I need to work […]
Most parents try to teach their children about forgiveness when something goes wrong by asking them to tell a friend or sibling, “I am sorry.” Forgiveness is not an absolute science. We cannot expect that by doing 1+1 we will get 2 as the result. Our emotions are not some mathematical formula. What is forgiveness? […]
