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Emotionally Safe Sex: Ensuring Sex is About Connection and Healing

by Dr. Mark Chamberlain
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Presented by Mark Chamberlain, PhD at the “Togetherness Conference” on October 17, 2015. The following content is his PowerPoint presentation. Emotionally Safe Sex “I feel messed up emotionally” “I’m not crazy!” Attachment System: • I still want to be with my husband physically • I want to know he’s near me Avoidance System: • I […]

The Fear Comes Back Full Force: How to Handle Panic and Trauma Flashbacks

by Dr. Mark Chamberlain
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Presented by Mark Chamberlain, PhD at the “Togetherness Conference” on October 17, 2015. The following content is his PowerPoint presentation. Trauma Response … • Nervous system recognizes danger quickly, safety more slowly. • What you’re doing may be working, just takes longer than expected Physically Calm Your Aroused Nervous System • Breathe – Phone App: […]

I Can Be the Catalyst for Change

by Rod W. Jeppsen, CMHC, CSAT
I Can Be the Catalyst for Change

On a daily basis, you work within many complex situations involving both individuals and families. Sometimes you would like to see something in your relationship with others change. In order to be happy, often times, you will want someone else to make that change. Unfortunately, this behavior can lead to feelings of being stuck, helpless […]

Doing it Differently with a “Mental Redo.”

by Dr. Mark Chamberlain
Doing it Differently with a “Mental Redo.”

Many equate being “in recovery” from a pornography problem with being completely free of the problem. If they blow it and have a slip, they conclude that they’ll be back on track only after they’ve gone a few weeks–or perhaps even months–free of porn again. This is an overly simplistic view. Think about how discouraging […]

How Can I Matter in the Relationship and Feel Connected?

by Rod W. Jeppsen, CMHC, CSAT
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There is a human need to feel connected, bonded and attached to the significant people in our lives. Sometimes we are not sure what we need to feel emotionally safe. Emotional needs are not always easy to identify. If we do know our emotional needs, then sometimes it’s even more difficult to ask our loved […]

I Lapsed Again. My Spouse Doesn’t Think I Have Changed.

by Rod W. Jeppsen, CMHC, CSAT
I lapsed again. My Spouse Doesn’t Think I have Changed

Lapse First, let’s examine the definition of lapse. A lapse is “(1) error: a momentary fault or failure in behavior or morality; (2) gap in continuity: a break in the continuity of something” (Encarta® World English Dictionary, Internet Version). When we think of a “slip up” — a momentary fault or failure in behavior — […]

Learn to Respond to Emotions Instead of React.

by Dr. Mark Chamberlain
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Recognize when you become reactive and flag the moment Several times a day, we shift in an out of an emotionally reactive frame of mind. Such transitions can be subtle or dramatic, but since they are so integrated into our conscious experience they typically go unnoticed. By catching the shift and registering it in some […]

Learning to Trust Again

by Rod W. Jeppsen, CMHC, CSAT
Learning to Trust Again

Trust is Different than Forgiveness Forgiveness does not mean that all trust has been restored in our relationship. Forgiveness and trust are not the same. Trust requires evidence, forgiveness does not. We might forgive our spouse for past transgressions, but we may still wonder if we trust him when he says, “I need to work […]

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